Attention. Perhaps this is all that I have been looking for?
Attention. Perhaps this is all that I have been looking for?
I just have gotten off the zoom phone with two potential counsellors whom one of which I would speak to on a regular basis during my intermission. Rather surprisingly, the one that was more thoughtful in her response to my original contact ended up being a bit more robotic and not as inviting or easy to talk to as the second one. I am already decided it will be the second one, but I will mull it over until next week and send the okay then, just to make sure.
It is always a strange experience talking to complete strangers, especially over the phone, about your deep issues with your relationship to work and your parents etc. I am getting better at it, and I found it quite easy both these times, but thats because I have had three previous counsellors. I remember with my first counsellor, I was quite nervous and I also remember being very grateful after for her help during a very hard time for me.
On a similar subject, four days into my intermission, I already feel overwhelmed with the possibilities and the pressure of the time I have left to 'fix' myself. I was listening to a podcast today on my walk with the dogs and it was the first episode of a modern author, whom I admire greatly, Cal Newport. My friend has messaged me about his podcast which Cal had started earlier in the year, and I gave the first episode a listen. Cal is very good and breaking down fulfilment and life work into very straightforward and reasonably deducted logical perspectives. Nevertheless, I was overwhelmed of his story of a Harvard Medical Student in the 60's who has written 5-10 books, and sold one of his books to a film studio for $3 million in today's money, all by the age of 27. That's less than 2 years away for me.
It's silly to compare yourself like this; I know the only comparison that matters is the one, to yourself, to the previous day or month or year. Yet, I can't help it. Something innate in me really wants to be the best right now, and yet it does not want to do the work to get there. Rather ironic, and therefore clearly irrational. I hope to explore this, and my attitude to work much more in depth with my new counsellor and in my time off.
I went to church today for an advent service. It was a moment to reflect upon the current life we lead with facemasks and hand sanitiser. Most of the people there were pensioners, bar the family that came with their young baby, ready to be christened (an odd way of forcing something upon someone who is completely oblivious, it seems baptising your dog would make just as much sense). There were of course, three pre-teen boys ready to cough and make noise at opportune moments to try and get attention. Nobody cared. They stopped.
During the service, I could not help but think there is something to this communal and meditative activity that has made it stick for millenia. The church also advocates for morals and a philosophy, even if it is based on human myth. There is a specific sort of solace received from the traditions and the quietness and the contextually wise words of the priest. I think a quote I come back to often is very poignant here:
“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”
― Blaise Pascal, Pensées
I have been guilty of this, as we all have been at some point. I watch my father blast information into his head 24/7. He even sleeps with YouTube in the background now. He is retired so it does not really affect his livelihood, but it absolutely affects my ability to have a reasonable conversation with him. His attention span is minute; a problem I have been trying to remedy in myself these past few months. This is why I have been meditating an hour a day for the past few weeks, focussing my input (news and media) and output (writing here and in my journal), and just taking life a bit slower. I have a tendency to rush through things to check them off, as they are graded as coursework, when the reality is, nothing is graded. Even coursework. We all die, and the slate will be wiped clean with nothing ever to be written upon it again.
I can see how the church is very apt in these modern times for people, and there is an argument to be made that the benefits outweigh the lack of evidence supporting the base of christianity. However, I do understand that the church can cause some serious issues, this can be seen from the evangelical influence in America, or the history of the Catholic Church in Europe. Nevertheless, I have realised that the decline of religion without an adequate substitute will cause a gap in modern life that can be used to some actor's advantage. In my opinion, it seems ever the more obvious that social media has replaced this void; the power of a few corporations have taken over the power vacuum left by the church. I say this as a believer in physics and science, that I think I would rather have the church than social media.
On a different note, it seems ever more impossible to disconnect, I sometimes think what it will be like if I am lucky enough to reach retirement, will there be any opt-outs at all? Or will cars drive themselves only with the option of voice or mind control and any request to do so otherwise will leave you leagues behind in the society of 2060? I think advocating for people to retake some control of their digital presence is definitely a good start to help influence that future. It does not seem enough though; some food for thought.
The final step is in motion. I have got all the pieces of the puzzle, now I just have to align them. My intermission will be from the 19th January 2021 until April 20, 2021. 13 weeks is the max with funding covered. However, due to the length of the process and the Christmas holidays, essentially from Thursday 4th December 2020, I will be beginning my intermission.
I am so excited; I feel hopeful and I feel the space to do things that interest me. This will be a big time of change for me, and I hope to look back on it as a truly wonderful time of personal development and positive steps forward in my PhD and my frame of mind.
I have an idea of what to start with, to help myself ease the pressure and the load on myself. I want to stop being as hard on myself and so, I think a nice and extremely enjoyable way to start would be to do some of the projects I have been meaning to do for a long time. These are all computer related:
Well, that was a lot. Of course, I will still write a basic data privacy guide for my friends and family and as a way of having some start-up content on my new home on the internet – my website.
I hope to begin and finish on this in one session after this week of final responsibilities for me. Onwards and Upwards.
One day from receiving the final piece of the bureaucratic puzzle required to apply for intermission. It turns out I will be applying for January and that way I get December off as well as a freebie.
Furthermore, an advisor of mine at the university has recommended that I seriously consider looking into a new supervisor (either alongside or in place of!!) my current set-up. She got this only from knowing that my supervisor is young; I guess now as I write this, she also deduced as I have been struggling during my PhD that that would be a factor too.
It's an exciting yet worrisome idea. I, of course, would really click with some supervisors in the CS department, but it's hard for me to comprehend at the moment exactly how to approach even looking for one. There are a lot of factors involved that I am not sure about: my funding, my source of funding, self-funding, my knowledge etc.
Nevertheless, I'm expecting 2021 to be a big year of change. I am very much looking forward to stepping into the abyss and seeing what lies on the other side for me. Some argue proper systematic change always requires a revolution, and not just a reform. Let's test this hypothesis, shall we?
As I read more, I have found that some people – who are ostensibly exercised in thought and understanding – can have a mediocre way of persuading people through their arguments. For example, I was reading 'Avoid News: Towards a Healthy News Diet, by Rolf Dobelli'. The only credible piece of information I have about him is that he is a 'good' friend of Nassim Taleb, so I assume that was enough for me to be interested. Though, now as I write this, I see that I am basing that completely from his own word. Regardless, as a mental model, it is useful to discuss what I found needlessly arrogant and patronising in his tone of writing.
Firstly, when I have a point to make and want to persuade someone of something, I have found it completely counterproductive to speak in not very thought through platitudes and in a completely affirmative tone. What I mean by this, is shown in this example:
“News consumers are suckers for irrelevancy, and online news consumers are the biggest suckers. News is an interruption system. It seizes your attention only to scramble it. Besides a lack of glucose in your blood stream, news distraction is the biggest barricade to clear thinking.”
Okay, so claiming that distraction from reading the news is second only to an physical state of malnutrition seems a bit like a tribal war here. Rolf has understood that news is bad for him, and so it must be as bad for everyone else on planet Earth and such clearly, it deserves a place under starvation in its prohibition to clear thinking.
I understand I am cherry picking out of context here, and I do see many good points he makes. I, myself, have not been reading the news for a few weeks now and earlier in the year, I took a few months to stop reading the news as well; to great positive effect on my mental health. I am on his side, yet I can not help but feel patronised, and that by reading this 'manifesto' I have wasted time. It is not thoroughly researched, not thoroughly explained, and picks out random studies for its own aims of obliterating the idea of consuming news.
This is a pattern I see amongst self-proclaimed 'rational' thinkers – a self pompousness that seems to override a key tenet of rationality; a clearly thought through and validated argument with evidence weighed scientifically from both sides. Gwern.net has hosted this file on its servers; I am disappointed that such an intelligent and thoughtful person could host such a piece with its complete disregard for the complexity of thought, by the use of one-sided platitudes that only young teenagers seem to love when exposed to new ideas for the first time.
It is my hope that people when they read such a piece, that they take it with the rational grain of salt, and read it for what it is: a way for the writer to let some steam off with regards to the problems in his life and perhaps an all too clear scapegoating of a much more complex problem. After all, we are all only human.
A guide for my intermission. I am in the process of applying for a semester off from my PhD (minimum 3 months) in the new calendar year. I am extremely looking forward to it, and a plan has arisen from the scraps of the time I have had to think about this over the past few months.
Here is the overall statement for my intermission:
What is an 'academic'? What is the academic process? Where has it come from? What is the development and history of the modern-day PhD as we know it. The thinking is that if I can understand the basis for a PhD, historically, etymologically, semantically, and most importantly its practicality for society and myself, I can have a better sense of perspective of what I am doing in the micro every day and how it lends itself to the macro, to the big picture. A sense of purpose; perhaps, that is too strong of a word. I don't quite have a full plan of how I would do this, but I think I would start with the modern-day and work backwards.
Just as an aside – I have an idea to screw all these books and just go through the entire Feynman lectures on Physics from start to end. This is very appealing to me for two reasons. 1: I won't have the time again for such a pursuit for a while and 2: they are so comprehensive that if I really work hard, I will really know what an education and what physics means (to me) by the end of it. It is also quite appealing in the simplicity of only going through one volume, and slowly mastering some topic within it. Of course, I understand that 3000 pages is pretty extreme and it was a multiple-year course in Caltech so I would not get a chance to go through everything, but it would be beautifully straightforward.
I would love to read through many classical sources and have time to think about their impact on history and philosophy. I am already a great fan of some A-list stoics: Seneca, Epicurus, and Marcus Aurelius (though I have yet to read Meditations properly). However, it would be pertinent, in the interest of my own self-development and well-roundedness, that I have read and thought about more classical works including:
Finally, I have a bucket list of things to figure out which I'm sure I could do all in one day, but I just have not got around to it, some examples include a deeper dive into the topics below and their ultimate application in the world:
It's in very draft stage, and not particularly grouped in the right order or themes. But a bad plan is better than no plan, right?
I just got off a call with my university counsellor and I am feeling somewhat optimistic. A rarity for me. Let me explain why.
Ever since the beginning of 'learning' or perhaps a better more applicable word would be 'working' in my so far relatively short time on the earth, a sense of doom and dread has encompassed my dealings with work on a non-stop basis. I have not been able to escape an extreme sense of resistance when sitting down and 'working' on my studies. I'm a very curious person and can work on other parts of myself and other tasks with no friction and I can be greatly successful at those, and yet even though I am greatly successful on paper academically, I have reached a boiling point of doom at which I have a fork in the road. If I continue on the path I am now, brute forcing myself through work every single minute of every single day without much regard to my mental wellbeing, because I think I am just being a 'baby' and should get on with it, I would probably get through this next project and perhaps the next, and maybe perhaps a couple down the line I would find myself just about graduating from my PhD. It would be incredibly shaky and my fundamental knowledge is so lacking, that it would be chaos, a disaster. Perhaps it would take 6 months of corrections, perhaps it would not be correctable. It would make the last 2 years of my PhD moot, let alone my studies before that.
But, there is another fork in the road. One which requires, in my opinion, way too many bureaucratic hurdles here in the UK and let alone at my famously bureaucratic university. Three months off in the new year. January to the end of March. Even typing it out seems too good to be true. Time to think about the purpose of my work, the academic process, the scientific method, the things I would read and do and learn. The space to think about the ever impending sense of dread I possess with my work since the beginning of my university career (a point I will come onto in a later post!). Space. I feel such relief thinking about the concept of being able to have some space. I have not had any space in my academics since I began at university at the age of 18, nearing a decade ago. I had no space in my choice of subject and really my choice of university beforehand, and I have no space in my PhD now. Space. A word that sounds almost too good to be true, even the clickity-clack of my keyboard sounds joyous when I type the word 'Space'.
To gain access to the space, I will have to apply for a medical intermission and label myself as 'mentally struggling'. It seems odd that I would have resistance to this, as it is very clear to everyone (and myself, most bafflingly) that I am indeed and always have mentally struggled when it comes to my work. It would allow me to claim three months of my funding as sick leave and not have that disappear to the wind. It would allow me to think and really develop my ways of thinking which I feel at this moment, in my maturation, would really be crucial; I am developing ways of thinking that were not open to me even just a year ago. I think three months to think and to do and to breathe would be worth many many years at my current 'brute-force' progress rate.
Well, I guess it is decided then. I will indeed apply for a medical intermission. It's very interesting how writing or talking (though yet to be decided which is more effective for me) can really sort things out. Journalling, of course, is very trendy at the moment with the self-help types, but naturally something with such use will always be trendy with those who value such things in their own personal journey. The next few steps are relatively daunting, I will email my supervisor, and some support staff at my university to get the ball rolling. I will do that right now, and come back to writing a vague plan to my intermission. I am much more productive with even a bit of planning (of course, I understand that applying the label of productivity is perhaps not the best word for a break for mental wellbeing but I will take it for now as I do not have a better term for it).
I had a great discussion with my partner's family today about data privacy and the way modern surveillance has increased to an extreme with the ubiquity of devices with an internet connection and the ability to collect data, to feed you hyper specific ads on social media. It got me thinking (again) that I think a handy little palatable guide to a few steps you can take to hamper their influence on you and your daily digital life would be very useful and I planned on writing one anyway. I will commit to writing one this week in the evenings after work, on the state of the internet and media today and why if you can quit, you should give it serious consideration. Regardless, everyone should have a quick guide handy to realise that there are options other than facebook, amazon, and google. Brave, Firefox, Qwant, Startpage (if qwant's search results are too bad), and a step further, limiting your OS's abilities, with the final step being a FSF approved linux. I know that 4 people in the world use a distro like parabola, especially with proprietary blob on wifi cards being a big issue, but it would be nice to see an end-to-end solution starting off with the very small, and if the reader is interested, reading all the way to the end to see what daily experience is like off grid from closed source software (as much as possible of course, with the modern state of the internet being very frustrating but that's another topic).
I wanted to write about my plan for an intermission for a PhD but instead, as I sit reading Atomic Habits by James Clear, I had an idea to link the 'habit implementation guideline' with 'habit stacking' and finally with an odd sense of invisible accountability here with my ghostly readers (yes, that's you!).
Implementation guideline: this is the idea that if you make a plan for a specific task or event, you are much more likely to do it. It's that simple; making a plan to get to the party, which you are nervous about going to, will make you much more likely to go.
Habit stacking: Stacking a habit that you want to develop with one you already do. For example, after brushing my teeth each morning, I will write out my most important thing to do for today.
Accountability is clear; I somehow feel that my ghost 50+ viewers on my posts are my accountability partners, even though I am completely anonymous and will always strive to be.
So, let's do a habit scorecard: what habits do I do through the day automatically:
Okay so that is my morning routine; it's a bit chaotic at the moment, but I will take it. Life is chaotic these days. As for an evening routine, I really don't have one, apart from a wind-down before bed:
Typing these out did help. I think a clear pause in the morning is having a glass of ice water. Here, I can implement something new quite simply. Perhaps it is, write a post for this blog. Doesn't have to be long. Can be 20 words, as long as I do it. Or maybe think about the most important thing I have to do today, and after the walk I take, I sit down and work on that straight away to avoid distraction.
Okay so here goes:
After I have a glass of ice water, I will write down on a piece of paper my tasks for today. I will do this with a notepad or a laptop that is nearby. I will spend 2 minutes doing this.
After I take a quick walk, I will sit down and work on my MOST important task of the day just for 20 minutes. I don't care if it's incredibly boring; 20 minutes is 20 minutes.
After I do my first 1.5 hours of work, I will meditate for 1 hour(!! – I will write about this soon) in the chair in the living room, preferably with dogs as company.
Now, I just have to remember this somehow?